Yesterday was one of those days where I got everything done on my to-do list, and I did my job well, and I felt like a good mom, and I just felt like I was on top of everything. I attribute it to asking for help. I’ve recently realized that if what I want to do full-time is be a writer/librarian, then I have to DO that full-time, and not do the mom thing all the time and always push aside my desires.
That’s not to say my kids don’t come first, but the opposite: Sachin went to afterschool care and I worked on book edits and got in a phone call about revisions and so when he and his big brother came home, I didn’t feel like a frazzled wreck. I could just concentrate on THEM, instead of trying to juggle everything and do it all. I think I’ve wanted to be a working mom for a long time, but I’m just now getting the guts to say: I’m a better mom when I work everyday. I don’t feel like they’re getting in the way of something or stopping me from doing something. That definitely wouldn’t make me a good mom.
So that’s to say: I hope there are a lot more good days in the future because I’m learning to outsource help, and to be present when my kids are home. Oh, and Gregg bought a Roomba, so obviously life can only get better from here.
Earrings: Fossil (I don’t know if you can tell, but they’re little owls. LOVE!)
Sweater: Thrifted
Shirt: Ruche
Skirt: Old Navy
Tights: Simply Vera (Kohl’s?)
Shoes: Keen
It’s so awesome that you’re finding balance and joy! How is the librarian job going? Also, how soon can we expect to buy your book? I want to read it and make all my friends read it!
My hat is off to you because I can barely find balance in my life lately and I don’t even have children. I totally have the guilt when my little cousins whisper sadly that they only get to see me once a month. It’s hard to do it all and make everyone happy.
You look so professional! I am glad you had a good day. Here’s to many more!
Do you think you could have made this same choice when your kids were younger and still have felt like you were a better mom? Or is this feeling attributable to the age of your kids? Of course, it’s all speculation, but I still wonder what you think.
This made me happy to read.
As did the kicky purple tights and BEAUTIFUL blouse.
Some people actually get EVERYTHING done on their “to do” list????
Aren’t we color coordinated AND getting fancy with the photography!!! Grammy